Hey friends.......
I dint know much about this show called emotional atyachar which is supposed to have an amazing trp.....A dear friend just mentioned to me about it.....She said there are people who come to this team and they do a so called loyalty test on their partner.....So in the loyalty test goes this way....the lead tells the team to set his/her partner wid someon.....called as undercover agent n to check wether their partner is attracted to that agent or no.....
K so that was about the show.....now my angle of looking at this is different and it might differ from lot of u reading this blog.......I m not against people who are insecure about their partners not even against people who do that loyalty test......completely wid dem.....its normal....no problem.....But i find this wierd.....K ther are 2 kinds of relationships in my view......one is a committed relationship n the other has no real definition.......they call it attraction, admiration, crush, or if pushed further or desired too much then i call it lust......U might be bowled over by this word but if lust is a bad feeling then why do we even call it a feeling.....Watever... so my focus here is on this second type of relationship or connection or feeling....
So on this show....the EA team set the suspect wid a pretty hot model.....Now models are these glamourous people whom anybody would want to be around.....Honestly how many of u guys would not look at a hot girl passing by......or how many of u chics dont look n feel butterflies in ur stomach when u spot a real hot and handsome guy......Im sure all of u do....n if that hot guy or girl comes and talks to u......isnt that a bonus......I find this feeling normal.....human nature.....we all admire n fall for things like these .....just the way of reacting is different......naturally coz all of us are different in nature......in this show the lead knows what aspects does their partner fall for in the opposite sex.....If he knows she falls for a rich guy....they will accordingly send a rich n hot lookin guy in front of her........This is like playing wid ur partners weakness.....its like taking advantage of ur partners weakness an trapping them on that weakness......
Another example.......which guy wouldnt fall for a real beautiful girl.....n if she wants to be touched, which guy would leave the chance of touching the girl he falls for just for the sake of touching infact if one doesnt the girl might think u are not straight......LOL......This might force u to think wat jerks men must be......i respect ur feelings but for getting my message across ur minds i would even take that title......though i can rightly say im clean......as of now........
But guys this is not only true on this side but even on the feminine side.......There are millions of chics who are pretty horny or who dont mind one night stands or to keep it a bit less harsh i would call casual romancing......The number in comparison wid men is low because of simple natural phenomenons....A girls body is everything to her......so once she is compelled to give it to somebody......she thinks she is guilty n feels she has lost everything.....This might sound a bit contemporary or old but to me it still holds stake..... i still respect it......On the other hand men are pretty blunt in this case.......asin they dont really consider it that much......They have this mentality to think they owe nothing to nobody....for them status or value or respect holds more stake compared to their body.....
Now there was some karans case he had a 2 and a half yr old relationship wid a girl n also he was in a 3 months relationship wid another girl (as claimed by both the chics on the show)......Now inspite of having two relationships, he still falls for the undercover hot agent Sonia......Pathetic if u consider......>>>>>>now my view......These things depend on the nature of the relationships..........gone are the days of laila majnu or romeo julliet......todys romeo will take julliet+her sister+her friend......lol but thats wat todys youth are doing......So according to me he must be going out wid this girl since two years......then he bumped into this new girl who was certainly interested in him......now this guy thought if i can have a complete 3 course meal n get a complementary chaat widout the meal knowing anything about the chaat......it sounds a relishing deal.....So this meal was going on since 3 months n suddenly he got Sonia as an extra dessert.....courtesy emotional attyachar.......he dint leave it either, he got intimate with her also.......Getting back i was talking about the nature of relationships.....Differnt people have different perceptions about relationships........Now in the above case i think he was in a real gud relationship wid the first girl coz they were junior college mates.......junior collge.......where all the souls are fresh n tend to have millions of crushes n also get into relationshis.......At that time neither the guy nor the girl knows what life is all about,.....they are not really developed emotionally......THey tend to face the same confusion .......infact many of us still beat around the same confusion.......Dont worry its completely natural.......that is where we learn most of the things in life......So these people started off in junior college.....n thought about it pretty seriously......u know the made for each other funda.......The girl as by nature stuck to her word but the guy.....U know what he did......He learnt about life......That girl was a nice n faithful girl who believed in love n the fairy tails......Of course he dint want to break her heart......infact most of us consider such girls as complete marriage packages......But he was in the freakin youth so he added this second girl.....which seemed to be very slutty types to me n if im wrong.....even to him........so he thought why not play with her n make life exciting.......such girls dont have a real hard time to get over guys they can switch partners just like clothes,.....It was not moral of him but human nature,........Basically when ppl are in relationships the only bonding that holds them is emotions.....it is not legal......u cant complaint to parents......no police.....no court can sue them......So many people take them for granted,......n dont think much before getting in and out of relationships.....as if they are getting in and out of loos......If the loo is good they tend to stay more if its not gud hold the nose n run out asap.....
So basically he dint think much before getting into an intimate relationship wid this girl.....
Same day he meets the hot agent who acts equally slutty n lures him to be intimate.....naturally he acted normal n went ahead......N just when he is at his peak activity.....Asin when he is at the position where he really cant control his emotions he is jacked......The girls who think he has betrayed him are sent in like dogs behind a thief.....n they scratch him punch him pus him slap him.......even abuse him which are beeped..........Whats the point in all dis drama.....its just playing with ur own partners emotional weakness...if u really doubt him or her then just get out ur not really in love its just a casual relationship from which as i said ppl easily get in or get out...In their words they rightly called the show Emotional attyachar.......N i agree...... only to the name.........
My dear people from this i just wanted to say that relationships are actually ships full of emotions......Think very seriously before boarding on to one of these ships.....They may take u across seven seas or take u right in the middle of the ocean n sink away......Now if know to swim u may manage to be safe but if not u will curse urself forever.......Dont take a guys way taking care of u for granted.... or a girl being happy wid u a forever company.......ders more to consider.....We are all different people n we all react differently under different situations.......depending upon our nature, character, upbringing, perceptions, mentality, emotional strength,,,,,,,etc.....all these things can be individually talked about but for now i just want u to try understand these differences which im sure holds gud to many of us n it will work by helping u in be broken if we are dumped or cheated or even in simple misunderstandings in life....
Thank u so much for reading
Hinendra Surana (Honey)
*Note:- This was just my angle of looking at it ....This may contradict to urs so no offence....N sorry for any spelling or gramatical errors...Feel free to comment on my wall.....even if its negative...
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ReplyDeleteHey nice to see you writing!
ReplyDeleteI concur with you on this point.We need to understand the basic rules of attraction while considering any scenario shown in emotional attyachar.
1)Attraction is not a choice
2)Attraction is instantaneous.
Attraction is not a deliberate choice that we make or have.If we are not attracted to a person,no amount of kicking and screaming is going to make us attracted to that person.There is nothing we can do about it.Same way,if we are attracted to a person,there is nothing you can do about it either.Also,attraction is instantaneous.When we see a hot person passing by,we don't think "oh,I think I will get attracted to him/her after 10 mins".It happens within seconds.And this is exactly what happens in emotional attyachar.
Considering that these things are evolutionarily hardwired into us,I definitely won't blame the guy/girl if she gets attracted to the undercover agent,who mostly has all traits of an attractive person(it's different in case of guys and girls,btw).There is nothing that person can do about it.If we are designed this way,if nature made us this way,why should we as human beings be so fussy about it?So yeah,in one way I feel it is setting up trap for your partner.It's like dangling a carrot of desire in front of a donkey and whipping it when it tries to eat it.
All in all,good post and would love to read more from you!
ey i completely agree...
ReplyDeleteevry1 has ter points n d way u'v put it isn't bad..
actu d loo stuff was a lil weird or sud i say funny..lolz..
wel ovr al gr8 attempt..
bt fo me love is smtn whic jst hapns.. ten lust attraction or watevr.. bt d most imp tin, it hpns on its own n only once.. n tests or to b specific tes loyalty tests r jst stupi.. i mea if u dun trust ur partner tat mch also its jst pointles bein in any relation ya..
wel yea n d last point is also gud bt dude u 4gt d ship tat u board in u r nt d only one in it..coz at times it may hpn tat u may leav d ship bt ten witout u d ship mit jst sink..
nwys i liked it quite alot..
gud work dude..
the blog written is really nice i liked it i agree to it upto a certain point i know gone are those days where one relationship would end up in marraige but its little weird to accept a guy dating 3 gals at a time .............
ReplyDeletefor a gal its sad to know that guy she is dating is not happy to be wit her.......
and junior coll love true is fresh but gals take it seriously and give their heart and soul to it..........true every one has thir perspective ....
well there are certain specific things i would just say about this post....
ReplyDeletefirsty, lust is a part of our psyche... no matter how hard we deny it its there and subconsciously affects us... to punish some one or to judge them over this is hypocrisy...
secondly... in a relationship trust is very important...if u cant trust your partner then you might as well just walk instead laying an elaborate trap for them to break your trust...its difficult enough already to keep someone's trust so no extra difficulty is needed
thirdly... the idea to use the show as a means to measure your partners loyalty is the most stupid thing one can do...it is a show...they wil try everything to prove your fears right...they have no incentive to be honest, all they seek is entertainment... when you look at the show for what it is all you can see is that people are played around with... giving you everything you desire and then using that to judge you... those who approve of their methods are real morons...
relationships are tough...if you get in one try your best to make it work instead of finding the flaws in it....